I remember being young and so fearless. My sole purpose was to be happy and do everything I loved. I was a bright shining force that didn’t believe in fear, that it was a fabrication of the mind and ego to trick us into believing that fear was real. And from a Buddhist perspective that is still actually true, but fear can also feel so real that it can immobilize us, paralyze our souls work and cause us so much suffering.
A few weeks after LOVE Not Fear was inspired I came to India, and Love not fear became the message of my journey. I found myself caught up in so much of my own fear, very old deep wounds from childhood, even lifetimes ago surfaced, along with a broken and wounded heart. All my fears looked at me in the eyes and gripped me with so much pain and feelings of hopelessness. This wasn’t supposed to happen to me on this trip. I was supposed to love myself and find myself again after feeling lost for the past few years. I was supposed to LOVE myself not live with more fear.
After days in bed and with much soul searching, I followed the guidance of my heart. I could feel my soul nudge me into remembering who I truly was. I was reminded of my own self-worth and I decided to believe in a different story. Rather than believing that I wasn’t good enough, that I was a failure in life and in love, I decided to change my story. With much healing, lots of tears and going into a place of stillness, I transformed my beliefs and fears by giving myself some love because I AM worthy, I AM lovable and I AM good enough.
Staying positive, believing in ourselves and living from a place of Love is not always an easy task. Our daily life experiences can really get us down. Life happens, things don’t always work out, the list goes on and on. Fear has a way of taking over the mind and tricking us into having beliefs about ourselves that are just not true. As Ekhart Tolle explains in his book The Power of Now, “The psychological condition of fear is divorced from from any concrete and true immediate danger. It comes in many forms: unease, worry, anxiety, insecurity, nervousness, tension, dread, phobia, and so on. This kind of psychological fear is always of something that might happen, not of something that is happening now.”
So how can we release and heal these fears? The answer and antidote is LOVE. When we find presence within ourselves we can find this LOVE. Love is the answer to all suffering. It is the spiritual and driving force that uplifts us to a higher level of being. We were born from love and love is our natural state of being.
Everywhere I turn I see the idea of LOVE not Fear. Loving more and fearing less seems to be the pertinent message these days as a major shift is happening on this planet. The deep old wounds of control and fear are surfacing, to shine light on the shadows that need to be loved and healed. The US election is reflecting just that. The hate and racism that is being projected and exposed is truly disturbing. It is a reflection of a society that has been bred with so much fear. To heal fear we must understand fear for it is the root of all suffering. We can no longer hide from these fears or pretend they don’t exist. They need to come to the surface, to be examined and magnified so that we can begin to understand ourselves and each other more. We must begin the deep cleansing and healing for this planet, and it starts with ourselves through LOVE.
LOVE heals all wounds and is the force that keeps everything together. Love is a human right and is at the core of our existence. Love is tolerant and kind. It is understanding and compassionate. Love is gentle and patient, it’s beautiful and gracious, but most of all love is a feeling of acceptance, acceptance of ourselves, and acceptance of others. Can you imagine living in a world where we all loved and accepted each other? Where love guided us rather than our fears? This is the kind of world I want to live in. It is our birthright to be loved and to experience this deep love within.
Love and fear are two opposing forces. One cannot exist with the other. We have been manipulated too long to believe in fear. We need to believe in more LOVE not fear, yet to begin loving ourselves we must understand our fears. Understanding our fears is a way of healing them, going to the root cause and transforming them into love.
So ask yourself, what do you fear and why do you fear them? Where do these fears come from? Are they psychological fears made up in the mind? Do they come from a direct experience or pattern? Or have they been taught to you in a form of control to breed fear and hatred of others? Know your fears.
"What is needed, rather than running away or controlling or suppressing or any other resistance, is understanding fear; that means, watch it, learn about it, come directly into contact with it. We are to learn from fear, not how to escape it."
LOVE not fear was founded because of the fear propaganda I saw during the refugee crisis in Syria. The fear and racism I saw all around social media deeply saddened but also angered me. When 3 year old Alan Kurdi, the Syrian boy who drowned and washed up on the Turkish shore, and whose image made global headlines, people cried. “We must help the refugees!” But when the attacks in Paris took place those same compassionate people were suddenly in fear, and became hateful and racist, fearing helpless refugees all because of mainstream media and the fear propaganda against Islam. They lost their humanness and it was disheartening to see.
When in a dangerous place such as war, fear is very real. The people of Syria, Iraq, Afghanistan, Sudan, Lebanon and many other countries who have suffered through war have lived in desperate fear, and still many today in this very moment are living in fear for their lives. Fear of death and destruction, fear of murder and the rape of their wives and children, fear of not having a home and surviving in a country that is not their own. This fear is not a fabrication of the mind. It’s a reality that these people face each and everyday. Unless living in a war zone or on a refugee camp, we can’t even imagine to know what it’s like to live with this type of fear.
So what can we do to help others who live in real fear? First we have to stop fearing our differences with other cultures and people. We have to remember and recognize our humanness, that we are all living together in this world, and with compassion and love we can heal these dark wounds that separate us. Once we can do this, we can begin helping others. We can give a hand of support in some very powerful ways. Compassion goes a long way and love truly is the answer. The Syrian refugee crisis, is a global crisis. It’s a humanitarian crisis, but one that is giving us all an opportunity to do more and to embrace our global community.
The lyrics of Morcheeba’s song ‘fear and love’ is so simple, yet so powerful that it inspired the name of LOVE not fear. LOVE noT fear stands for sharing LOVE and spreading wealth. It stands for saying no to all the fear we see being spread around the world. It’s stands for humanity, for equality, for opportunity, and for sustainability. It stands for healing and harmony and for the relief of suffering, within ourselves, for each other and the world around us. It is also a company that will donate 25% of all profits to a different cause and/or charity each year.
Our company is still very young, and we are only just at the beginning of this journey, but we wish to grow and expand so that we can inspire you to live with more LOVE not fear, and that you too will inspire others to live with more LOVE not fear. The possibilities are endless and this powerful platform is only just being created.
Please join us for our first Campaign called One Thousand Dresses. 25% of sales will be donated to sponsor a Syrian refugee family to Canada. 108 of those dresses were also made by 108 Indian women who will receive 100% of proceeds from the sale of her dress.
We are now looking for women like you to be a host for our Love Not Fear Dress Social’s. Launching November 2016! To find out more please contact us or sign up on our Host a Dress Social Page. We really hope you can join us!